I'm dealing with my son-in-law's mother. Well, not directly. She bought s mansion and moved the entire family into it except me. Ever since that day, three years ago, I've been left out of birthday and holiday celebrations as if I don't exist. Plus, she's made certain my grandchildren don't speak to me. I don't even know how she managed to do that. How would YOU feel. What would YOU do under those circumsances.
I have not been in your position, and I do not want to presume that I can fully understand what you are feeling. However, this is what I can say.
A friend's daughter-in-law had a serious misunderstanding and did not allow my friend to have any contact with his grandchildren (who are living in another country). He was very sad about it for a while but then realized that he could do nothing about it. He can be sad, angry, and miserable for the rest of his life or continue to accept the reality of the situation and move forward. This is what he chose to do.
From a Stoic perspective, we must see what is in our control. How your son-in-law's mother behaves is not under your control. What is under your control is how you can build your own life, no matter how she behaves. She cannot stop you from building your own life without referencing her. You are the master of your life as long as you don't make her your focus.
Well-being is realized in small steps, but it is no small thing. – Zeno
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I'm dealing with my son-in-law's mother. Well, not directly. She bought s mansion and moved the entire family into it except me. Ever since that day, three years ago, I've been left out of birthday and holiday celebrations as if I don't exist. Plus, she's made certain my grandchildren don't speak to me. I don't even know how she managed to do that. How would YOU feel. What would YOU do under those circumsances.
I have not been in your position, and I do not want to presume that I can fully understand what you are feeling. However, this is what I can say.
A friend's daughter-in-law had a serious misunderstanding and did not allow my friend to have any contact with his grandchildren (who are living in another country). He was very sad about it for a while but then realized that he could do nothing about it. He can be sad, angry, and miserable for the rest of his life or continue to accept the reality of the situation and move forward. This is what he chose to do.
From a Stoic perspective, we must see what is in our control. How your son-in-law's mother behaves is not under your control. What is under your control is how you can build your own life, no matter how she behaves. She cannot stop you from building your own life without referencing her. You are the master of your life as long as you don't make her your focus.